Contrary to the bill of goods you’ve been sold, life is not a competition.
Stop comparing yourself to anyone or anything.
This quote hit me and hit me hard.
I’ve struggled a lot with comparing all my life. Having been born the youngest of 4 girls it was impossible to escape constant comparison. It followed me to my school days where comparing grades and performances was the norm; and later on to social media and blogging where everyone appeared to be better. But really, what is better? Is being more popular really better? Is going to all the fancy places and events really better? Or is it all really just a matter of preference?
I don’t watch the television series “This is Us” (although I’ve heard nothing but good things about it online). I do know that Chrissy Metz plays one of the main characters, and as a plus-size woman working in the entertainment industry, she’s faced harsh criticism for the way she looks. This can no doubt be attributed to what the media has often presented female television stars should look like.
But we are all different. We’re all built differently, look different, have different preferences, personalities, ideals and aspirations. We can’t all be skinny, we can’t all be rich, we can’t all be travelling the world, and we can’t all be popular. But the truth is, we don’t have to be. What matters, according to Chrissy Metz is “how we look at ourselves and how we feel about ourselves.” Not how we look and how we are compared to others– but as our own unique selves.
So maybe it’s time to stop looking outward at other people, and start looking inward. There may be something beautiful and special in there we failed to see because we were always looking at what other people had.